"After so many years observing
people (and myself!) in the complicated game of love, I can say this: often
times, you don’t fall in love with a person. You fall in love with something else.
Most often, people fall in love with
their own imagination of the perfect man/woman. You meet somebody, you barely
know him/her, and then you start imposing your own ideals of a soulmate onto
the person. Problem begins when the illusion starts to shatter, and you start
to see ‘the real him/her’. And tragically, you accuse the person of ‘having
changed’ – although it was your own eyes which finally opened.
Often times, people fall in love not
with a person, but a “way out”. You are feeling lonely, you just don’t want to
be alone and miserable, and you see this person as a ‘solution’. Then, you are
falling in love with the solution to your problem, not with a person.
Some people fall in love with “agenda”.
You have made plans for your life: when to find a partner, when to get married,
when to have children, etc. And then you see this person as the fulfilment of
your life’s “Outlook calendar”. Again, you are falling in love with your life
schedule, not with a person.
Some others fall in love with “therapy”.
You were broken inside, you have mental scars, you have childhood trauma. And
then you find this person whom you think can cure you. Then, you are falling in
love with the therapy for your own soul illness, not with a person.
And few lucky ones, find that one
person, see his/her true soul, and fall in love. Few lucky ones, fall in love,
with a person."
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